My dear friends, we love you so very much,
You are lovers, dear friends. You love to uplift people because seeing another shine brighter as a result of your light delights the soul. You love to help when your service can truly assist because it keeps love in flow. You love to share with those who will make use of your gifts because it helps you feel abundant.
But where you get into trouble—burnt out, tired, or resentful—is when your giving is not done from the natural impulses within. Far too often, you give out of a sense of duty or because you fear what may happen if you don’t. You may feel someone has no one else, or you may simply feel you won’t be a good person if you don’t help.
There are so many misunderstandings around this topic, but the easiest thing to remember is very simple:
Giving, sharing, or serving from your love or joy comes from the light within. Giving, sharing, or serving without that love or joy comes from the ego.
And it is never wrong, of course, to help another. But divinely guided giving uplifts both giver and receiver, while ego-based giving can easily drain one and make the other feel “less than.”
There are no hard-and-fast rules about when it is “right” to give. You have your own inner compass to guide you. Your feelings tell you, before you do a thing, which exchanges will be mutually uplifting and which will not; which ones will serve your greater desires, and which ones will distract from them.
Pay attention to your feelings.
If you are a parent, you may not feel like taking your kids to school in the moment, but your deeper feeling is love for them and a desire to see them thrive. If you can focus on that love, suddenly the drive seems like a privilege rather than a chore. If, however, a perfectly capable adult wants you to chauffeur them around on a regular basis, you may not feel the same way!
Suppose a family member you love calls and asks if you have time to help them with a project on the weekend. If you do have time and you feel inspired, then you will both be uplifted. If you don’t, then either politely decline or arrange another time.
None of you likes to disappoint another, but we marvel at how easily you will disappoint yourselves in an attempt to please someone else.
You need never feel guilty for being honest, dear friends.
You need never feel responsible for another’s well-being unless they are your child or a dependent. And even then, they are responsible for their own moods!
Your kind and compassionate honesty is love. Inauthentic service is not.
You can do the same act with completely different energy and have completely different results. You can feed people with resentment, and they will feel “less than.” You can feed them with love, and they will feel lifted.
You can help a grown child by giving them money to support their goals while believing in them, taking care of yourself, and focusing on the love. In this case, your energy is saying, “I love you. I believe in you. I know you can succeed, and I’m not going to sacrifice myself for you. I’ll share from my abundance of love.”
What they do with your gift is up to them. You are in a vibration of love, in which you have the best chance of uplifting them.
Or you can give out of duty and resent it. Perhaps you don’t believe they can handle the consequences of their own choices. Or more honestly, perhaps you don’t believe you can handle the consequences of their choices.
It is the same action—sharing money—but in this case, you are sending an energetic signal that says, “I don’t trust you. You could mess your life up and never recover. I couldn’t handle it if you do. I will save you to spare myself from the consequences I fear.”
Dear ones, that is not the signal you would ever intend to send another, but it is often what gets sent.
Again, what they do with your gift—and your energy—is up to them. But in this case, your vibration is a mixture of love and fear. This does not serve either of you in the deeper sense.
Perhaps you can find a compromise that feels good to both of you. It would be worth examining your feelings to find a solution that feels more authentic to you.
If we could, we would relieve you of the undeserved guilt that plagues so many of you when you put your own heart first.
You need never feel guilty for being honest.
You need never feel guilty for spending your money on the things you desire, or your time on the projects that make your heart sing.
If you had a friend who was starving, of course, you’d feed them. Everyone deserves food, water, and shelter. But the majority of the time, when you set aside your own heart, it is not to help another survive.
So be kind to yourselves. Take care of your own heart and your own light.
As you allow yourselves to live according to the dictates of your own heart, you will naturally be uplifted. You will naturally feel like giving where giving is useful. And you will live in a flow in which authentic giving, sharing, and serving uplift rather than deplete you.
By all means, help others when your loving heart is full, and it feels like joy. But when it does not, be honest, dear ones, and do so without guilt. For if each soul tended kindly to their own light, your world would be a much happier place.
God Bless You! We love you so very much.
— The Angels
