Matt Kahn: The Ego's Endgame


Dear Friend,

The ego always yearns for an endgame scenario. “How do I stop this, get rid of that, eliminate this, transcend that?” As long as this is the approach, you will simply redecorate ego with a new outfit made out of the same conditioning. While the ego always looks for things to stop, the one thing it cannot do is start something new. This is a choice only the soul can accomplish. By daring to focus on new choices, one empowered option at a time, you begin communing with your soul while simultaneously parting ways with attachments to ego with respect, humility, compassion and love. While the time spent asleep in ego undoubtedly leaves one with varying degrees of laziness, apathy, and exhaustion, it is your willingness to make new choices that aligns you with your soul, its wisdom, and the inspiration to choose wisely instead of impulsively. Such inspiration not only benefits you, but helps others evolve, once you are willing to be the first one to change for the better. This is the power of leading by example.

In the beginning, choosing from your soul will detox you from the grip of ego. While it might feel hellish in the beginning or as if this couldn’t possibly be the right way to go, if you stay the course such detoxification will usher in a state of existential renewal celebrating the emergence of your light into actualized form.

Even when working your way through the depths of physical, emotional or energetic healing, the key is focusing on newly-empowered and loving choices to start, instead of going to war with the things your ego wishes to stop.

Whether it's eating in a healthy way on a more consistent basis, exercising more frequently, becoming more hydrated, setting daily intentions, creating a gratitude journal, getting out into nature even if just a walk around your neighborhood, starting or finishing art projects, or anything else you believe you cannot do until other distractions or perceived barriers have been laid to rest. As you detox from ego, notice how the one saying: “Not now. I can’t do this. It’s too hard!” is the very ego being integrated. Of course the ego can’t do it. The soul is doing it from within you. The ego isn’t doing anything but becoming undone at the rate at which you hear thoughts such as: “Not now. I can’t do this. It’s too hard,” while remaining focused on making wiser choices. All the while, keep taking breathing breaks to regulate your nervous system, practicing self-love to open and purify your heart, daring to pray for the wellbeing of yourself and others when judgements arise, and offering words of encouragement to the one in you growing, expanding and evolving in such a courageous way.

Despite any fear of missing out on what the ego may promise no matter how small each new choice may seem, and even when it feels agonizing to do so, this is the work at hand. The question remains, how deeply do you have to love yourself and how consistently must you choose differently in order to be excited about change instead of fearing or dreading it? The ego is sure to read such words and immediately wonder, “How can I eliminate the fear and dread, so nothing is in my way?” Please know such a question is nothing more than a facade keeping you focused on the things your ego believes it needs to stop. When in fact, all those things dissolve on their own the moment new choices dawn.

Please enjoy this newsletter and all the blessings it offers you.

All For Love,