Matt Kahn: Make Peace With Your Inner Child


Dear Friend,

Your inner child knows the difference between you offering authentic loving support and applying modalities as a way of fast-tracking your healing journey. Each time healing comes more from agenda than empathy, it infuriates your inner child. It often thinks, “You think you are having a hard time? I’m the very struggle you feel while housed in a body whose consciousness wants nothing to do with me. You think you are alone? You are merely empathing my aloneness within you.”

Once the healing journey is less about manipulating the circumstances of life and more rooted in building authentic relationships with all parts of self, the more peace you make with your innocence, the more the inner child forgives the self-abandonment it has felt within you, and the easier it is to the heal the wounds causing patterns of self-abandonment and further your own evolution from a space of heart-centered authenticity.

In the digital age, you cannot approach your healing journey like a computer with secret short cuts to learn. Each step of this journey must be done with honesty, humility and earnestness. If not, you will remain at the exact step you are on, unable to proceed until a more authentic version of self arrives to advance your journey forward. This is why everyone deserves more love, not less.

Once a practice of self-love is done without the anticipation or expectation of change, this is often when the change we desire comes to be. It is important to remember, it's not just a matter of doing a sequence of steps correctly, but allowing it to come from a space of true compassion, instead of utilized as a means to an end. Such compassion is a willingness to feel your pain, see how hard of a time you are having, and view this struggle to such a degree that you reach inward toward yourself, just as you would reach out to a loved one in peril, a wounded animal, or a child in need. This is something only the heart can do. As you spend more time empathizing with the gravity of your own suffering and despair without looking for an exit strategy, the mind begins to relax. As the mind relaxes, the love you offer yourself as authentic compassionate attention begins to feel more natural, long lasting, and supportive.

To make peace with your inner child and open your heart to a greater capacity, please read or repeat out loud the following words:

Dearest Inner Child,

I'm sorry if you ever felt hurt, abandoned, rejected or doubted by anyone in the past, or if you've ever felt that I have lived in a way that has excluded you from my experience. I’m sorry if I made you feel 'less than', humiliated, or judged by calling you an ego. I apologize for imagining you as a barrier to God, or something to get away from, as if you were not a pivotal part of my journey and the guardian to my highest Self.

I'm so sorry if my interest in spirituality made you feel like the invisible sibling that's never enough for my attention. I'm sorry if lovers seemed more important than honoring you. And when you felt unsafe around the people I surrounded myself with, I'm sorry I did not hear your requests. Instead, I tried to desperately earn the validation from those who made you feel unsafe. I now see how caring for you, my beloved innocence of heart, offers me the validation, confidence and emotional support that no one else may be destined to provide.

May this moment of forgiveness be a re-start between us, where we make peace and allow the mind and heart to reunite by coming together in the oneness of love. May we engage in the beauty and harmony of consciousness, so each battle or wound within me can be healed for the wellbeing of all. May I finally feel the joy of being myself, as a conscious parent to you, my own innocent nature. May you no longer have to act so desperately to earn my loving approval. May you no longer have to create existential crisis as a way of calling out for my loving attention.

I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. I did not know how deeply you hurt. From this moment forward, I intend to be the one that keeps you safe, honors your curiosities and concerns by allowing you to share whatever you need to say. I am ready to turn towards the light of my divinity by listening to anything you wish to share with engaged heart-centered attention. I am ready to love you as never before, knowing it’s not about being perfect, but doing my best to allow love to be my response to the emotions you use to communicate with me.

Whether it's fear, sadness, anger, jealousy, guilt, shame, insecurity, loneliness, frustration, confusion, or even gratitude, openness, peace, and joy, each feeling is an opportunity to love you throughout each passing experience – no matter how preferable, freeing, frustrating or inconvenient any of it seems to be.

Thank you for being a part of my life. I love you – now and forever. And so I am healed.

All For Love,